Second Kid — To have or not?
This write-up is for parents who are unable to decide if they want a second kid or not. I am sailing in the same boat.
It’s much more convenient to say that it’s an individual couple's choice. But to all the smartness out there, There also are couples who are just not sure!!
Parenting is not everything glory. I would say it is 10% glory and the rest just dealing with it.
But that 10%, I admit is like a dream and a love like no other. That pure unadulterated love experience is just overwhelming at times. When your cheeks are wet because of sloppy kisses and the laughs just lift up your mood. When you are everything to your kid and when they are your shadow. When watching them sleep is love and dancing to their tunes is a must. When their smile makes you remember how one should smile and when their innocence just teaches you a life lesson. How your chest feels satiated when you hug them tightly and how they believe anything their mamma says!
But that’s it, folks!
My kid is 6 plus now. His constant speaking at times irritates me. His constant jumping in the house just gives me a head spin. His saying NO repeatedly wants me to go into hibernation. He when depicting our own bad habits wants me to travel back in time. His yelling around when exactly I want him quiet is brain-freezing for me. My guilt feeling after snapping him out kills me!!. The feeling that I am not doing best for him & myself put me on the back foot.
You see such a wide mix of happy, sad and frustrating emotions and add the first few years of the madness of a newborn. How could one decide so easily?
Parents like us are mostly clear in the first few years that they don’t want another kid but the moment a child enters his 5th year, that feeling of cuddling a newborn creepingly comes back and you just snap out of it momentarily.
Then there are other wide varieties of parameters like career hindrance, who will take care of, financial implications and so on.
But one feeling that always brings me back to this topic is when I look at him and think of the future and his no direct siblings, is when I think of worst when he is alone and we are not around.
I don’t know I am still not able to make up my mind. There are days when I am planning long travels and then this just pops up in my head and I take solitude in sleep to escape it.
Are there any parents out there who are in a similar situation? Would love to hear back :)
#Cheers
